Ringing in the New Year
What I've learned from this year...
As the year is coming to an end, I’ve come to realize that there are so many things to learn in life even as an adult. You may think you know everything though it’s not exactly true, there is always something new to learn especially when it comes to learning about yourself. Over the past few months, there was a lot to learn about myself and about what comes along that I wanted to pass on to you in case you need it soon.
It's okay to say no
The first thing I learned was to learn how to say no when you are uncomfortable or learn to know your limits for yourself. For example, if someone extends an invitation to a social event yet you’re super exhausted from the long week that it is okay to say no. It doesn’t make you a bad person, but it means you know your limit when it comes to how much you can handle. As what I have been taught is that you would rather take care of yourself, your health, rather than stress out and get yourself sick at the end. It’s not worth it.
This next one is SUPER important, and it can take a while to get the hang of and that is projecting confidence with yourself. It is how you present yourself, what you say, and how you behave because once you show a lack of confidence this may question your credibility as a person.
2. Be confident with yourself
Confidence is what gains respect from another person, and this may take some time to build for yourself especially if you are still learning who you are as a person. And that is okay since I am still on the same boat as you. Confidence isn’t something you get right away. Confidence is working progress, and confidence is something you build through your personal experience.
You may think can an introverted, shy person even be confident? YES! Confidence isn’t about how outgoing or talkative you are. To be confident is being kind to yourself, staying positive, smiling to others, and being kind. Confidence starts with yourself from the inside-out.
3. You can love yourself while you’re in a relationship
Another thing I learned this past year is you CAN learn to love yourself while in a relationship. Our culture says “you must learn to love yourself before being with someone” though I have learned you can learn more about yourself with the right person you are with.
To be with the person who sees your flaws, your silly traits, your beliefs, and your low points as beauty. You start to see things from their perspective and begin to be more kind to yourself. Of course, there will be days when you feel less confident and love yourself less, and when you need that reassurance from time to time the person who loves you that much will stick with you. And that person will remind you that you are better than what you see yourself in that low moment. And if you are learning to love yourself and waiting for the right person, how do you know you’re not ready when you haven’t tried? And if you have tried, wouldn’t being with the right person and loving yourself be considered a lesson to learn how to balance life itself in relationships?
